Ann Bell Feinstein

Rant: Show some consideration….

Today I wanted to go the convenience store here on post during lunchtime. I was hungry and needed a few small items they normally have. So I chose the one closest to my home, not my normal one. When I arrived all of the handicapped spaces were full and not all of them had placards or license plats allowing them to park in these spaces. I do have a placard and with my wheelchair it’s almost a necessity. I drove around the lot for twenty minutes finally a handicapped space opened up. I still couldn’t use it. Why? Someone riding a motorcycle had decided to park in the no parking area next to the handicapped space I needed to unload my wheelchair. I was fuming mad. Thankfully on my next pass a second spot had opened up. I snapped some photos of his bike including his license plate number and went inside. I went into the store to get what I needed, but decided to wait on the food. I wanted to give that motorcycle rider a piece of my mind.

In all honesty I was hungry a bit tired and not in the best of moods, this meant they were in for it. I caught the rider coming out of the store. I stopped him and spoke with him, I reminded him that not only was this illegal, it was inconsiderate and unprofessional especially for a sergeant in the United States Army. He tried to excuse his behavior by claiming he didn’t know what that space with the no parking lines was for, I didn’t buy it then and I don’t buy it now.

After he left I wrote down his name and rank and what unit he belonged to. I had every intention of going down to the unit and filing a complaint, because this is not the first time I’ve had that issue at this store. The store is located near the headquarters of one of the largest units on base. As I was deciding whether to eat first or go straight down to the unit and let them have a piece of my mind so they could fix this issue once and for all. While I was waiting a major from this unit walked by, I flagged him down. I gave him all of the pertinent details and informed him that it was not the first time I had seen such behavior from soldiers in his unit. I also told him that I had spoken with the soldier, but didn’t think he understood the severity of the issue. The soldier had given me the impression that he didn’t really care what I had to say, he did give me an apology, however I think that was just an attempt to pacify me. I just hope the major gets to the bottom of this, I get the feeling he will.

This is not the only inconsiderate thing I have witnessed in recent weeks. On my way back from Oklahoma I stopped at a truck stop to get gas and use the restroom. There were 4 giddy teenage girls in the handicapped stall so I waited patiently. After 45 minutes of waiting I tracked down an adult who was with these teenagers and mentioned their occupation of the stall. I was told that they had every right to use the stall as long as they wanted, just as I had every right to use it as long as I wanted to. Needless to say this did not sit well. Thankfully I was at a truck stop not just a gas station. I found the manager and mentioned the issue to her. She promptly opened the handicapped shower for my use. (Yes, truck stops have showers.) After that the manager proceeded to speak with the adult who was accompanying the teenagers who were still in the bathroom (going on an hour now). The manager was equally frustrated with this behavior. The manager proceeded to ask the group to finish up and leave since they were being rude to other customers.

In short think before you occupy a space designated for handicapped people. If you do use the handicapped stall don’t hold it hostage for an hour, there maybe someone who needs it. Don’t park in the no parking spaces meant for loading and unloading wheelchairs either, it’s not only inconsiderate its illegal.

I guess common sense isn’t so common any more and consideration for others seems to have gone right out the window.

Have you forgotten? Or Patience Please

If you are annoyed by the increase security measures at your local 4th of July festivities please be patient. For those of you born after 9-11-2001 imagine 3,000 people going to work or getting on a routine flight and never coming home. It was painful, even those who didn’t lose a friend or loved one, the nation was in pain. For those who were around, have you forgotten the pain those attacks caused? I haven’t.

I may not have forgotten because I’m an Army wife and I know many who have and are still deployed in order to protect the freedom we celebrate on this day. I may not have forgotten because I lost a friend that day, I may not have forgotten because I’m a news junkie, but no matter why I have not forgotten I urge each of you to take a deep breath as law enforcement does their job.

They are only there to keep you safe, they are the same people who will be the first responders in the event of an attack. If you don’t believe me look back at 9-11. The police and fire departments were first on the scene, long before the FBI or any other federal agency. The NYFD lost  a staggering 343 firefighters and paramedics. NYPD lost 23 officers and the Port Authority lost 37 officers. No one who has to respond to such an attack wants to lose one of their own. So please be patient.

I also want to reiterate what all of the experts are saying: IF YOU SEE SOMETHING SAY SOMETHING. The police would rather check out a false alarm than have a bomb explode, trust me. I reported a suspicious vehicle near the military base I live on. It took me 30 seconds, the vehicle was parked near one of the main entrances to the base in an odd spot, I noticed it on my way in. I simply said something to the guard at the gate. They were happy I mentioned it.

Darryl Worley said it best in his music video shortly after the attacks. Here’s the link take a few minutes to check it out. Yes, I realize it’s “outdated” because it names Bin Laden not ISIS or Dash but the message is still valid.

So take 4 minutes and watch it, especially if you weren’t around when the attacks happened.

Darryl Worley Have You Forgotten

I hope everyone has a wonderful and safe 4th of July. Just keep your eyes open and party on.

I think I live in Mayberry

I live in a place where kids still play outside and neighbors still talk to each other. I can ask any random neighbor for a favor and have no worries. I have to be careful when I’m driving home to make sure I don’t run into a child on a bike. From what I hear this is not what the average person in America experiences in this day and age.

I live on a US Army base, in fact it’s a mega base (aka a huge base). It’s a small city, we have two grocery stores (commissaries) and two stores for general merchandise (PX) and seven convenience stores (Shoppettes). There are a number of schools on base and a hospital, I really don’t have to leave base if I don’t feel like it. We even have a a post office, library and bowling ally. There are places to eat, and play right here.

I think the reason we all respect each other, for the most part is that everyone on base understands what its like when a loved one is deployed, hurt or just can’t talk about work. I hear the planes from the flight line and the guns from the ranges. To me these sounds are normal and are the sounds of freedom. The noise may occasionally drown out the television but it’s worth it. I feel very safe on base, to the point i have fallen asleep (unintentionally) with my doors unlocked and when I awoke everything was just fine. My neighbors know and look out for my cats.  The grocery store even takes your groceries out the your car for you, try finding that service in most places these days. I am truly blessed to enjoy such an environment.

I wish there were more places like this left in this country, I find it very sad that more people don’t have the same experiences I do. Yes, I move every few years but the military is like a family. Know we don’t all know each other but, when one of us needs help we all chip in.

I think America would be a much better place if there were more places like this and more people could experience what I have by being an Army wife. I’m issuing a challenge to each and every person out there to try the following:

  • Say hi to a neighbor
  • Take your kids out to play, yes tear them away from the gadgets for a while
  • Help a neighbor carry in their groceries
  • Sit outside once in a while, you never know who you’ll meet
  • Talk to a member of the local police, just to say Hi

Just try it you never know what you’ll start.

Why I bought a “Confederate” flag today.

First I’d say I didn’t  buy a “Confederate Flag” I bought the battle flag of General Robert E. Lee’s Northern Virginia Navy. I bought a 38 inch square flag, not a rectangle. IMG_0282Now that you know what flag I bought let me explain what I was thinking.

  • Soldiers fought and died for this flag.
    • I don’t care if you agree with why they were fighting.
    • Has everyone agreed with every fight fought under the Flag of the United States?
      • No, Vietnam, The War in Iraq come to mind.
  • I don’t see it as a symbol of racism or hatred, but part of our history.
  • I wont be flying the flag, it will most likely take up residence with other flags I’ve collected over the years.
    • Yes, I collect flags, most of them are US flags, but not exclusively.
  • I see attempts at banning this flag as a step down the slippery slope towards censorship.
    • We as a nation seem to be afraid to take a stand: i.e. when the movie American Sniper was not shown or nearly not shown on campuses because a few hundred students were offended by it.
    • Freedom of speech is a right. There is no right not to be offended, or guarantee of the intelligence of the speaker.
    • If they can pressure businesses to stop selling this whats next?
      • Will we start banning or burning books that someone finds offensive and drive them off the shelves?
        • My favorite living author Brad Thor has death threats against him for a book he wrote: The Last Patriot.
        • He writes fiction, or as he prefers to call it faction. As he has said (paraphrasing here) His goal is to take the reader on a white knuckle thrill ride, if you learn something along the way that’s even better.
        • Brad Thor is a master at weaving facts and fiction together that you have to use a search engine to dissect where one ends and the other begins. (Yes, I’ve done this with his books.)
        • Should his bestselling books be banned because they offend some people?
        • No!
      • Will people start trying to control what clothing is acceptable? (ISIS???)
        •  Can the elder ladies of the neighborhood get together and have mini skirts pulled off store shelves?
        • I may never wear a mini skirt, but if that’s your style have at it.

So in short I chose to exercise my freedom of speech through expression. I was asked if I wanted an amendment protecting my beloved American flag from being burned.

As much as it pains me to see the flag burned in protest NO! That’s taking away freedom of speech, it takes no courage to stand up for speech you agree with, they true measure of freedom of speech is protecting speech that is NOT popular.

So while the Stars and Bars may never hang on the walls of my home, I’m glad I bought it.

As to whether it should be part of a state flag or be flown over any particular capital or building that’s for the residents of that region to decide. I’m not a legal resident of any of the states in question.