Suicide in the ranks

As I sit here at my keyboard I am saddened by the actions of a soldier. He attempted to take his own life the other night.

Thanks the the quick actions of other soldiers that were near him, “Soldier Smith” is alive.

As an army wife I have heard the statistics and heard of this happening in other units. I never really thought about it happening in a unit I love and care about. “It’s the it wont happen to me syndrome.” (Please note as I write this my emotions are still raw, this was a recent event.)

I am happy that “Soldier Smith” survived thanks to the actions of “Soldiers Blue & Brown.” (No these aren’t their real names you just don’t need to know them.)

The Soldiers all go through suicide prevention training, my thought is why can’t spouses receive the same training on a voluntary basis?

I know the training must cost something but it may save lives. With the rate of suicide in the ranks I think offering the class to spouses and other interested family members would be an easy step. 

The second thing I have to say about this is a plea. Please talk to someone if you feel depressed or worse. Even if you just know someone who has attempted suicide find a battle buddy and talk to them. The battle buddy may come in the shape of a friend relative, chaplain or spouse, just speak up. There is no harm in finding a willing ear. 

I have personally spoken to several of the soldiers impacted by this incident and offered to be such a battle buddy. I assured them the only reason I would contact anyone was if I felt they were going to harm themselves or someone else.

This is not a subject to be taken lightly. For now the best I can offer are links to the signs and symptoms. Someone you know may be at risk.

Suicide & the Military

Veterans Suicide Line

Military One Source

If anyone knows how spouses and other interested family members can get free training on suicide prevention from the Army please contact me

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A special Saturday at ASOM

This morning was not the Saturday to sleep in, despite the late night writing session last night. My husband David and I were due at the Airborne & Special Operations Museum in a few hours. First on the agenda was coffee, running out of coffee in our house is a crime. After completing a number of the normal household type chores we changed and headed off to the museum for their Medal of Honor Day. We were both assigned biographies and tables in separate areas of the museum. I was given two biographies from Somalia. I was stationed in the lobby near a permanent display about the Medal of Honor. While I was there I was able to read the stories of other recipients on the monitors behind me. A second monitor was interviews with those who earned the Medal of Honor and lived to tell their own story. Shortly after starting the interview with Colonel George Day, who earned the medal as a Major. Day was a prisoner of war in North Vietnam and managed to escape, he was recaptured and spent five more torturous years in the Hanoi Hilton, sharing a cell with Senator John McCain. After interview with Day ended I found that there was a small group standing next to me.
A retired soldier standing next to me started up a conversation about the museum and the various exhibits. His eyes filled with tears when I mentioned to him that our next temporary exhibit would cover the story of Mogadishu. I found out that he had been there and in fact personally knew the two men who earned the Medal of Honor for their acts of heroism during that siege. After a bit more conversation he told me part of his story from that horrific day.

I would like to challenge all of my followers to read at least one of the stories of a Medal of Honor recipient.

What have I been up to?

Well I took a road trip. Why? I turned a simple trip that could have been done in 2 days and turned it into a 3000 + mile road trip. Why?

I decided that using the car and driving I could get more done.

I left my home in NC and headed out for OK. I did have a traveling companion, Philip our kitten.

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Philip had never been on a long road trip before, but he eventually adjusted.

I stopped in OK to see my Dad. The went on to Fort Riley in KS to help another Army wife.

After completing this I stopped in to see Dad once more before leaving OK. Then I headed down to San Antonio TX.

I was headed for the Soldiers Angels warehouse.

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Here I dropped off the extra items we had from the drive for items for the barracks rooms of single soldiers returning from deployment, and picked up the blankets I needed to complete this task.

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Sidetracked note this is just a few of the coins and other items that are proudly shown off at the Soldiers Angels warehouse.

 

With my van reloaded with 75 handmade blankets, I once again took to the road. Next stop Huntsville AL. I was stopping there to meet a soldier I had adopted through a few tours.

The next morning I took off for home, only to be struck by the desire to get my husband some of his favorite bagels. When I realized I would not make it to the bagel shop in time I had to call in the reinforcements.

My in-laws were more than happy to pick up my last minute order and meet me just off the interstate. Now having the bagels, and a few other goodies secured in my van I rolled for home.

I arrived tired but pleased with everything I had accomplished on this trip.

 

Now I need to get back to my Novel. Another chapter awaits, a freshly created one that was not in the original outline.

 

It Finally Came

Today was the day we started making beds and filling the rooms with snacks for the returning soldiers of the 1-7 ADA. I can’t post the exact dates due to operational security, but I will say that the first group returns soon. The rest of the 1-7 ADA will follow shortly.

A group of 3 soldiers and 5 dedicated Army wives took up the task of gathering and readying the supplies the returning soldiers would need. The married soldiers will go home to their families, but what about those single soldiers who will be staying in the barracks?

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This would be their welcome home after a deployment serving your country, if others did not step in. Well none of us want to see these soldiers enter their barracks room late at night with nothing open, and most likely no vehicle handy, having just gotten off a long plane flight and see this.

So action was taken.

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Thanks to donations from many this is what those warriors will find. A bed that is already made, a hand made blanket from the Soldiers Angels Sewing team, towels, toiletries, and all the things they will need for their first days at home. There is a welcome home card or note for each soldier on the bed waiting to remind them that their service has not been forgotten.

Many thanks to all of those who donated.

Gathering sheets & Blankets for heroes.

Yes this FRG volunteer, and Soldiers Angel is rounding up 100 sets of twin bed sheets.

Why?

The 1-7 ADA stationed at Ft Bragg is returning from deployment. There are 100 single soldiers that will be put into an empty barracks room. They will most likely come in late at night and have very little with them. No one wants to see these soldiers sleeping on bare mattresses their first night back in the USA. We want to make their barracks rooms inviting and welcoming. 

So I have been asked to round up 100 sets of twin bed sheets, 100 wash cloths, 100 bath towel, and 100 sets of toiletries. 

If any of my readers want to help me reach this goal email me at

Ann.Feinstine.armywife (at) gmail (dot) com

I will happily accept all donations.

Even 1 set will help.