Customer Service makes all the difference.

A deployed husband and an Army wife in a wheelchair add to that the fact I know nothing about vehicles or much of anything involving tools and you have a recipe for disaster. Between the wheelchair and two cars, I have 12 wheels that all need to be maintained and kept operational.

Things that complicate these issues:

I hate driving my husband's car, no seriously I won't do it.

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Holidays apart, and other Army wife holiday dilemmas

If you follow me on twitter you know my husband is deployed. His unit wont be home for the holidays. I’m not alone in these issues this is just my take on it.

Thanksgiving alone, nope I’m not cooking. In fact in some ways I welcome this. I will miss out on some of my holiday favorites but my waist line may end up the winner here.Continue reading

Ann Bell Feinstein

Rant: Show some consideration….

Today I wanted to go the convenience store here on post during lunchtime. I was hungry and needed a few small items they normally have. So I chose the one closest to my home, not my normal one. When I arrived all of the handicapped spaces were full and not all of them had placards or license plats allowing them to park in these spaces. I do have a placard and with my wheelchair it’s almost a necessity. I drove around the lot for twenty minutes finally a handicapped space opened up. I still couldn’t use it. Why? Someone riding a motorcycle had decided to park in the no parking area next to the handicapped space I needed to unload my wheelchair. I was fuming mad. Thankfully on my next pass a second spot had opened up. I snapped some photos of his bike including his license plate number and went inside. I went into the store to get what I needed, but decided to wait on the food. I wanted to give that motorcycle rider a piece of my mind.

In all honesty I was hungry a bit tired and not in the best of moods, this meant they were in for it. I caught the rider coming out of the store. I stopped him and spoke with him, I reminded him that not only was this illegal, it was inconsiderate and unprofessional especially for a sergeant in the United States Army. He tried to excuse his behavior by claiming he didn’t know what that space with the no parking lines was for, I didn’t buy it then and I don’t buy it now.

After he left I wrote down his name and rank and what unit he belonged to. I had every intention of going down to the unit and filing a complaint, because this is not the first time I’ve had that issue at this store. The store is located near the headquarters of one of the largest units on base. As I was deciding whether to eat first or go straight down to the unit and let them have a piece of my mind so they could fix this issue once and for all. While I was waiting a major from this unit walked by, I flagged him down. I gave him all of the pertinent details and informed him that it was not the first time I had seen such behavior from soldiers in his unit. I also told him that I had spoken with the soldier, but didn’t think he understood the severity of the issue. The soldier had given me the impression that he didn’t really care what I had to say, he did give me an apology, however I think that was just an attempt to pacify me. I just hope the major gets to the bottom of this, I get the feeling he will.

This is not the only inconsiderate thing I have witnessed in recent weeks. On my way back from Oklahoma I stopped at a truck stop to get gas and use the restroom. There were 4 giddy teenage girls in the handicapped stall so I waited patiently. After 45 minutes of waiting I tracked down an adult who was with these teenagers and mentioned their occupation of the stall. I was told that they had every right to use the stall as long as they wanted, just as I had every right to use it as long as I wanted to. Needless to say this did not sit well. Thankfully I was at a truck stop not just a gas station. I found the manager and mentioned the issue to her. She promptly opened the handicapped shower for my use. (Yes, truck stops have showers.) After that the manager proceeded to speak with the adult who was accompanying the teenagers who were still in the bathroom (going on an hour now). The manager was equally frustrated with this behavior. The manager proceeded to ask the group to finish up and leave since they were being rude to other customers.

In short think before you occupy a space designated for handicapped people. If you do use the handicapped stall don’t hold it hostage for an hour, there maybe someone who needs it. Don’t park in the no parking spaces meant for loading and unloading wheelchairs either, it’s not only inconsiderate its illegal.

I guess common sense isn’t so common any more and consideration for others seems to have gone right out the window.

Have you forgotten? Or Patience Please

If you are annoyed by the increase security measures at your local 4th of July festivities please be patient. For those of you born after 9-11-2001 imagine 3,000 people going to work or getting on a routine flight and never coming home. It was painful, even those who didn’t lose a friend or loved one, the nation was in pain. For those who were around, have you forgotten the pain those attacks caused? I haven’t.

I may not have forgotten because I’m an Army wife and I know many who have and are still deployed in order to protect the freedom we celebrate on this day. I may not have forgotten because I lost a friend that day, I may not have forgotten because I’m a news junkie, but no matter why I have not forgotten I urge each of you to take a deep breath as law enforcement does their job.

They are only there to keep you safe, they are the same people who will be the first responders in the event of an attack. If you don’t believe me look back at 9-11. The police and fire departments were first on the scene, long before the FBI or any other federal agency. The NYFD lost  a staggering 343 firefighters and paramedics. NYPD lost 23 officers and the Port Authority lost 37 officers. No one who has to respond to such an attack wants to lose one of their own. So please be patient.

I also want to reiterate what all of the experts are saying: IF YOU SEE SOMETHING SAY SOMETHING. The police would rather check out a false alarm than have a bomb explode, trust me. I reported a suspicious vehicle near the military base I live on. It took me 30 seconds, the vehicle was parked near one of the main entrances to the base in an odd spot, I noticed it on my way in. I simply said something to the guard at the gate. They were happy I mentioned it.

Darryl Worley said it best in his music video shortly after the attacks. Here’s the link take a few minutes to check it out. Yes, I realize it’s “outdated” because it names Bin Laden not ISIS or Dash but the message is still valid.

So take 4 minutes and watch it, especially if you weren’t around when the attacks happened.

Darryl Worley Have You Forgotten

I hope everyone has a wonderful and safe 4th of July. Just keep your eyes open and party on.

I think I live in Mayberry

I live in a place where kids still play outside and neighbors still talk to each other. I can ask any random neighbor for a favor and have no worries. I have to be careful when I’m driving home to make sure I don’t run into a child on a bike. From what I hear this is not what the average person in America experiences in this day and age.

I live on a US Army base, in fact it’s a mega base (aka a huge base). It’s a small city, we have two grocery stores (commissaries) and two stores for general merchandise (PX) and seven convenience stores (Shoppettes). There are a number of schools on base and a hospital, I really don’t have to leave base if I don’t feel like it. We even have a a post office, library and bowling ally. There are places to eat, and play right here.

I think the reason we all respect each other, for the most part is that everyone on base understands what its like when a loved one is deployed, hurt or just can’t talk about work. I hear the planes from the flight line and the guns from the ranges. To me these sounds are normal and are the sounds of freedom. The noise may occasionally drown out the television but it’s worth it. I feel very safe on base, to the point i have fallen asleep (unintentionally) with my doors unlocked and when I awoke everything was just fine. My neighbors know and look out for my cats.  The grocery store even takes your groceries out the your car for you, try finding that service in most places these days. I am truly blessed to enjoy such an environment.

I wish there were more places like this left in this country, I find it very sad that more people don’t have the same experiences I do. Yes, I move every few years but the military is like a family. Know we don’t all know each other but, when one of us needs help we all chip in.

I think America would be a much better place if there were more places like this and more people could experience what I have by being an Army wife. I’m issuing a challenge to each and every person out there to try the following:

  • Say hi to a neighbor
  • Take your kids out to play, yes tear them away from the gadgets for a while
  • Help a neighbor carry in their groceries
  • Sit outside once in a while, you never know who you’ll meet
  • Talk to a member of the local police, just to say Hi

Just try it you never know what you’ll start.