I said No!

I like many other wheelchair users pride myself on being independent. There are a few, very few things that give me trouble on a daily basis. I can but hate to pump my own gas, I can’t reach the top shelf of the closet, I’ve never changed my own oil.

I was out getting some food from one of my favorite places that has been ruined for me many times by either staff of other customers who were overly helpful. At first it was the staff, the once told me I wasn’t allowed to carry my own sandwich to the table. I was fuming at the thought of not being able to handle my own sandwich. I asked to speak to a manager and asked if this was some new corporate policy. Continue reading

Ann Bell Feinstein

Rant: Show some consideration….

Today I wanted to go the convenience store here on post during lunchtime. I was hungry and needed a few small items they normally have. So I chose the one closest to my home, not my normal one. When I arrived all of the handicapped spaces were full and not all of them had placards or license plats allowing them to park in these spaces. I do have a placard and with my wheelchair it’s almost a necessity. I drove around the lot for twenty minutes finally a handicapped space opened up. I still couldn’t use it. Why? Someone riding a motorcycle had decided to park in the no parking area next to the handicapped space I needed to unload my wheelchair. I was fuming mad. Thankfully on my next pass a second spot had opened up. I snapped some photos of his bike including his license plate number and went inside. I went into the store to get what I needed, but decided to wait on the food. I wanted to give that motorcycle rider a piece of my mind.

In all honesty I was hungry a bit tired and not in the best of moods, this meant they were in for it. I caught the rider coming out of the store. I stopped him and spoke with him, I reminded him that not only was this illegal, it was inconsiderate and unprofessional especially for a sergeant in the United States Army. He tried to excuse his behavior by claiming he didn’t know what that space with the no parking lines was for, I didn’t buy it then and I don’t buy it now.

After he left I wrote down his name and rank and what unit he belonged to. I had every intention of going down to the unit and filing a complaint, because this is not the first time I’ve had that issue at this store. The store is located near the headquarters of one of the largest units on base. As I was deciding whether to eat first or go straight down to the unit and let them have a piece of my mind so they could fix this issue once and for all. While I was waiting a major from this unit walked by, I flagged him down. I gave him all of the pertinent details and informed him that it was not the first time I had seen such behavior from soldiers in his unit. I also told him that I had spoken with the soldier, but didn’t think he understood the severity of the issue. The soldier had given me the impression that he didn’t really care what I had to say, he did give me an apology, however I think that was just an attempt to pacify me. I just hope the major gets to the bottom of this, I get the feeling he will.

This is not the only inconsiderate thing I have witnessed in recent weeks. On my way back from Oklahoma I stopped at a truck stop to get gas and use the restroom. There were 4 giddy teenage girls in the handicapped stall so I waited patiently. After 45 minutes of waiting I tracked down an adult who was with these teenagers and mentioned their occupation of the stall. I was told that they had every right to use the stall as long as they wanted, just as I had every right to use it as long as I wanted to. Needless to say this did not sit well. Thankfully I was at a truck stop not just a gas station. I found the manager and mentioned the issue to her. She promptly opened the handicapped shower for my use. (Yes, truck stops have showers.) After that the manager proceeded to speak with the adult who was accompanying the teenagers who were still in the bathroom (going on an hour now). The manager was equally frustrated with this behavior. The manager proceeded to ask the group to finish up and leave since they were being rude to other customers.

In short think before you occupy a space designated for handicapped people. If you do use the handicapped stall don’t hold it hostage for an hour, there maybe someone who needs it. Don’t park in the no parking spaces meant for loading and unloading wheelchairs either, it’s not only inconsiderate its illegal.

I guess common sense isn’t so common any more and consideration for others seems to have gone right out the window.

Have you forgotten? Or Patience Please

If you are annoyed by the increase security measures at your local 4th of July festivities please be patient. For those of you born after 9-11-2001 imagine 3,000 people going to work or getting on a routine flight and never coming home. It was painful, even those who didn’t lose a friend or loved one, the nation was in pain. For those who were around, have you forgotten the pain those attacks caused? I haven’t.

I may not have forgotten because I’m an Army wife and I know many who have and are still deployed in order to protect the freedom we celebrate on this day. I may not have forgotten because I lost a friend that day, I may not have forgotten because I’m a news junkie, but no matter why I have not forgotten I urge each of you to take a deep breath as law enforcement does their job.

They are only there to keep you safe, they are the same people who will be the first responders in the event of an attack. If you don’t believe me look back at 9-11. The police and fire departments were first on the scene, long before the FBI or any other federal agency. The NYFD lost  a staggering 343 firefighters and paramedics. NYPD lost 23 officers and the Port Authority lost 37 officers. No one who has to respond to such an attack wants to lose one of their own. So please be patient.

I also want to reiterate what all of the experts are saying: IF YOU SEE SOMETHING SAY SOMETHING. The police would rather check out a false alarm than have a bomb explode, trust me. I reported a suspicious vehicle near the military base I live on. It took me 30 seconds, the vehicle was parked near one of the main entrances to the base in an odd spot, I noticed it on my way in. I simply said something to the guard at the gate. They were happy I mentioned it.

Darryl Worley said it best in his music video shortly after the attacks. Here’s the link take a few minutes to check it out. Yes, I realize it’s “outdated” because it names Bin Laden not ISIS or Dash but the message is still valid.

So take 4 minutes and watch it, especially if you weren’t around when the attacks happened.

Darryl Worley Have You Forgotten

I hope everyone has a wonderful and safe 4th of July. Just keep your eyes open and party on.